MISSION IMPOSSIBLE???

Okay I am on a mission, AND IT AIN'T IMPOSSIBLE.

I am trying to improve myself physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

I've noticed that when I started making positive changes in my life, I started feeling better. The infamous migranes are gone (for the most part). The stress has decreased. I am happier. So now I want to make sure other parts of my life are 'right'. Got it? Good.

I was hesitant to put this on my blog, because I didn't want to fail in front of all of the (cyber) world. However, I feel so good about all of the positive input, encouragement and resources available, that I can't contain myself. Nothing big-just I've decided (AGAIN) to go natural. I tried this before for 6 months and failed miserably. I got so fed up with my hair woes and southern humitity that one day,I slapped a perm on my hair before you could count to three. Hence, messing up 6 months of progress. :(

Maybe that experience will make this time easier though, since at least I do know (somewhat) what my natural hair looks like. This will help me while I'm transitioning (YES & probably a longer transition because if anyone has ever said I had the big head, it wasn't because I am stuck up, if you know what I mean. lol I am not feeling cutting all my hair off at all-even though it would probably make more sense. I will admit, I am much too vain for the 8 year old boy look on my face. Some can rock it, but I'm not one of them......) Anywho.

So...here goes my journey. I'm sure I'll post some rants & raves....and pics...so yall bare with me. There is a method to the madness. That's another post...

Thanks to Memphiz & Special K for your insight previously (I'll be hitting you up for advice) and thanks to KinkyCurlyCoolChick for the recent help (I know I worry u on a daily-lol).

Wish me luck...:)

(pictures from http://missjessies.com/ Check 'em out!)

"We Follow Your Lead" Cheryl 'Salt' James (Def Poetry)

(this was posted a year ago but somehow the video got erased..)

Question. What do you feel about submitting? Men always love to throw 'the woman should submit' bit at us. "It's in the bible," they'll say. Brotha man hasn't been to church or picked up a bible since he was saying Easter speeches, but will throw that one at you quickly.

Funny how many men fail to acknowledge the other instructions (ALSO in the bible). You have to jar their memories on those--to protect us, to love a women like Christ loves the church (which I personally think is more than most men and women can even fathom)...

Anyway, I truly believe that some women would not have a problem with the act of 'submitting' at all. The problem is that we aren't (and shouldn't) submit to just anybody. AND maybe 'submitting' is the wrong word? A man has to be someone worthy of letting yourself feel vulnerable with. He has to protect (which also means guarding our feeling-therefore, if you're doing things that are disrespectful, hurtful, sneaky or simply for your owns gain, guys-FORGETABOUTIT!)

Many of us women have our careers, homes, advanced degrees, etc. We are so used to being independent that we confuse that with submitting. I think that there is a difference in the two. Who says you can't still be independent and strong? I really believe that the real problem is that most of us have been through so much crap that we expect everyone to be the same. I know I was TRIPPIN during pre-marriage counseling about the whole 'submitting' thing in the vows because I viewed it as deminishing me in some way (in every way, actually). I did not want to vow to something that I wasn't sure I could do 100%. Ummm..and I didn't, I did say 'respect' though. And that goes both ways. Both parties need to respect one another for things to be balanced. Maybe that's it='respect vs 'submitting'?

Now I do see that when you have someone that you've made a commitment to (and they've done the same), that there is nothing wrong with following someone's lead (or them following yours with certain things) who has your best interest at heart.

(Stop rolling your eyes ladies! Check out the clip). Let me set the record straight. I DO NOT mean some old school "I'm less than him" foolishness. I am talking about trusting and respecting your man to do just as it says in the Bible (remember, we're talking a REAL man, not just any Joe Blow-and YOU KNOW there's a difference-lol). I'm talking about someone who truly loves you and protects you (and your heart) and all that jazz. :)

All I know is that it takes a lot of work to get there (and I'm not saying I am, but that's another blog). I'm just asking questions...lol. Anyway, maybe we shouldn't knock it til we try it-it just may feel hella good. * Be Blessed*

I Promise I Am Not Dead.....

SEE!?! ?!?!?!
I am still alive & kicking! Sorry peeps-I have treated my blog like a stepchild. The thesis has really had me going. I miss all of you bloggers out there and have been lurking as much as possible when time permits.

I will be back in full effect soon since I GRADUATE IN MAY!!!! *taking a graceful bow* lol

Anyway, I hope all is well with my blog fam out there! Be blessed!!!!
Until then....PEACE!
*the hubby & I in New Orleans for Mardi Gras February, 2009*

ONE WHOLE YEAR!!!!

July 29th, 2008. 1 year anniversary. Whoo-hoo!!!!

THe Wedding Theme

Sunday afternoon, the hubby's close friend got married. Why did these folks put 3 o'clock on the invitation, but the wedding actually started at 4? Yall aint slick!!! Black people can be on time, you know??
In other wedding news, my cousin is getting married in December. Yesterday, I met her at the bridal store to see her in her (2nd!) dress that'd just come in. (Yeah, we're related because I changed my dress at the last minute, too). She was GORGEOUS! I'm so happy that she's happy!

BUT! Then we looked at my dress. TWO HUNDRED PLUS FREAKIN' DOLLARS FOR A BRIDESMAID'S DRESS THAT I'LL ONLY WEAR ONCE?????!!!!!!?????? Day-um!

*breathe*
She'd happily do it for me. I'm cool.

*gulp*


I smiled, "I'll go ahead and order mine Friday when I get paid." (*note to self-Self, you can forget about those cute shoes and jacket that you were gonna splurge on.*)

Anywhoo, all this wedding stuff made me think...What advice would I give to someone about to get married? Better yet, what makes a marriage work????

Hmmmmm.....

TOP 5 THINGS THAT EVERY MARRIAGE NEEDS:

5. Patience {to avoid ending up on 'SNAPPED'}.

4. A stiff drink {note-this is optional for some, but may come in handy if you're married to a college teacher/musician. Okay, mainly the musician part-it helps tremendously with not knocking out disrespectful women and does wonders for assisting with remaining ladylike at least 9 times out of 10. *Notice I said "A" drink-more may have an "I'm Laila Ali" effect and get you in trouble.} Trust me on this one.

3. Open communication {You may need # 4 prior to attempting this under some circumstances}.

2. Two-TVs {So serious. Unless your hubby is a little 'How you doin'?' he will refuse to watch your Project Runway/Gymnastics (Olympics)/What Not To Wear/rotation. AND he for damned sure won't watch 'Love Jones' for the 868th time with you even if he is a renaissance man who plays the sax and has a Master's degree in African American Literature} Trust me on this one, too.

1. GOD {ALOT of talking to God. He'll become one of your BFFs, if he isn't already. Otherwise, forget about staying sane!}

Let Me Introduce Myself

Okay okay, I feel like I need to
reintroduce myself to the bloggersphere. What can I say? Life happens. I've missed blogging and getting to read my favorite blogs, but I've had crackberry/lack of computer/getting to learn my new job/working extra long hours/vacation/married quality time stuff/reading books I've been putting off/grad school (made my 1st freakin' B) issues. Whew. ..just pure bad time management on my part-but, I'm back!

Sorta....I still have most of these things going on, but that sh*t's life. Right? Plus I miss blogging and reading blogs, so I'll just have to make time.

This isn't a real blog today, guys. Just reintroducing myself-I'm lying, I just didn't want that "Crackberry and Long Island Iced Tea" or whatever it was, post up any longer (bad bad memories).

I can't wait to tell some of the stories about the characters at my new job (I had another embarrassing mishap-ugh...) and post some of the pictures from the Los Angeles trip.

Peace.

*this picture has absolutely no significance, I just thought it looked cool.*

Crackberry and Tea Issues

This 'crack'berry has been giving me the blues. Since I'm having phone issues and no. time to get to a computer with my training schedule, I'll just do a quick update...

The new job's been keeping me busy and I'm loving it.

School's been keeping me busy and I'm hating it.

I spent the 4th with family and enjoyed every minute of it.

I'm leaving for LA on Friday and will return Monday! CAN. NOT. WAIT!

I went to a fabulous suprise 'Sex In The City' birthday bash Saturday! (Mel, you throw a mean party!)

I embarrased myself beyond belief in front of family and friends Saturday night. I had too many Long Island Ice Teas (I've never had them before and let's just say when they caught up with me, it was ugly). I did the (in)famous Robot, put a wrench onto my nose and talked sh**. The worst part is that I had to be told about my actions the next day. SMH...

I don't want to EVER see another Long Island Ice Tea again in life. As a matter of fact, Imma cool it on drinking period for a minute. (*note-I wasn't out in public, but still...). And the worst part is that my MOTHER caught the tail end of that debauchery.

*sigh*