Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Crown Royal On Ice? (repost per request-lol)


Yep, your girl has been MIA yet again. School is trippin, but I'm hanging in there. I'm also in the process of getting a new job, so that's been sort of hectic,too.


Anyway, I got to go to the Jill Scott concert. It was GREAT! FABULOUS! Words can not express it, so I won't try! Yall know Jill puts on a show! Unfortunately, the show was not the highlight of our night....


A friend called me and told me that she had an extra ticket. Of course, I was game because I wasn't able to get tickets before the show sold out. The concert was Friday at 8. I met my friend at her house around 6:45 or 7. Everything was the normal womanly madness-her changing three or four times and me helping out with combinations of shirts, shoes and purses (Ladies, you know how it is. Men, you do, too-this is usually the part where you're sitting somewhere with a drink-W.A.I.T.I.N.G while watching Sports Center and saying, "Looks nice, babe," to everything we come out in without actually looking up).


We get a cute outfit together that doesn't have us looking too matchy-matchy and we're out the door. We park, go into the Orpheum, buy drinks (Tequila Sunrises) and chat with people we know until the concert starts. Raheem Devaughn opens for Jill. (He was also pretty good). When his show ends, we go outside to socialize or whatever until the main show.


My friend sees a guy (he's insignificant-no one she still talks to or still has feelings for or anything like that) she used to date for years in line at the bar. He's with his new chick (who was supposed to be 'just a friend' while my friend and the guy dated). Anyway, my friend's unaffected by seeing them, but his new girlfriend is obviously letting my friend's presence upset her (???) to the tenth degree. The girl is rolling her eyes, smacking her lips and scrunching (is this a word?) up her nose at my friend. We laugh it off (because let's face it, insecurity is hilarious sometimes). My friend looks fabulous and confident and it shows. The guy is sneaking peeks at my friend (which agitated the girlfriend even more, I'm sure).


The lights dimmed indicating the next show is about to start. We scramble to get back to our seats. We have to pass the bar, so my friend says to the ex, "Hey, Joe (we'll call him Joe). How are you?" He says, "Hey Tara (we'll call my friend Tara. Ha). I'm fine." I didn't even stop walking, people. It was that quick. Just a simple hi/how are you. As we're walking, we hear, "Bitch, you got me fucked up! Don't speak to him!" Hmmmmm.


I'm thinking, uh oh because this particular friend will take NO shit. My friend stops and turns around with an, "Excuse me?" The girlfriend steps OUT of the damned drink line and says, "Bitch you heard me, don't SPEAK to him!" (Interjection-she didn't say sh** to her man who spoke back to my friend. And more importantly, who goes off for someone just speaking? They'd never had any type of run-ins previously).


Anyway, my friend and the girl are standing face to face and I'm next to my friend looking at the girlfriend. The girlfriend is mouthing off and rolling her neck and then my friend calmly takes the remainder of her drink that we'd bought earlier and effortlessly throws it in this chick's face. For about a few seconds, no one does anything. It was like in the movies when time slows. I'm looking at dude's girlfriend with Tequila Sunrise oozing down her face heading toward her neck and shirt. The girlfriend is blinking and processing the fact that she's gotten a drink thrown in her face. The boyfriend is in the line looking horrified (he knows my friend is not one to be played with-remember he dated her for years). Many of the people in the line are looking anxiously and anticipating seeing a good ass whipping. A few are shaking their heads like C'mon Black Women! Then my friend takes it a step further and throws the empty cup at the girl (not with force, but like an afterthought. You should have seen this. Talk about adding insult to injury..) and it pops her on her nose with a hollow 'POOP!'.


My friend waits calmly and patiently with a , 'Now what bitch? ' look on her face. (I love this chic). The girlfriend starts cursing and I try to step between these two because I'm not sure if it'll get ugly. The boyfriend tries to diffuse the situation the best he knows how by asking if my friend & I could we just go.


To my friend's defense, she didn't say anything out of line (or much of anything at all for that matter) to the girlfriend or the boyfriend. She just spoke to an ex in passing. No flirting, no touching, no winking. Nada. The girlfriend started cursing and stepping out of line (literally). I think this is why the boyfriend didn't say anything but asked my friend if she could just go back to her seat. He knew that his girl started that whole situation by popping off.


Anyway, she almost got her a** kicked by my girl. And get this-when I stepped between them, this girl had the nerve to call my friend a coward for throwing the drink, but let's just say she wasn't trying hard at all to get past me to get at my friend. She was hollering, "Don't touch me!" to me (PRETENDING she wanted to get through). The girl was taller and larger than me and could've gotten by if she really wanted to. I know no one would've been able to hold me back if some broad threw a drink in my face. But anywho, she was a lot of talk and I'm thinking, Honey, I'm saving you from a good ole ass whipping in front of alot of people by standing between yall! LOL. She should be sending me a Thank You note.


When I stepped between them, all I could think was, We will not be associated with women actually fighting at the damned Jill Scott concert!!! My friend later nonchalantly said, "I wasn't gonna fight that b*tch." Classic lol

Sunday, April 12, 2009

MISSION IMPOSSIBLE???









Okay I am on a mission, AND IT AIN'T IMPOSSIBLE.

I am trying to improve myself physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

I've noticed that when I started making positive changes in my life, I started feeling better. The infamous migranes are gone (for the most part). The stress has decreased. I am happier. So now I want to make sure other parts of my life are 'right'. Got it? Good.

I was hesitant to put this on my blog, because I didn't want to fail in front of all of the (cyber) world. However, I feel so good about all of the positive input, encouragement and resources available, that I can't contain myself. Nothing big-just I've decided (AGAIN) to go natural. I tried this before for 6 months and failed miserably. I got so fed up with my hair woes and southern humitity that one day,I slapped a perm on my hair before you could count to three. Hence, messing up 6 months of progress. :(

Maybe that experience will make this time easier though, since at least I do know (somewhat) what my natural hair looks like. This will help me while I'm transitioning (YES & probably a longer transition because if anyone has ever said I had the big head, it wasn't because I am stuck up, if you know what I mean. lol I am not feeling cutting all my hair off at all-even though it would probably make more sense. I will admit, I am much too vain for the 8 year old boy look on my face. Some can rock it, but I'm not one of them......) Anywho.

So...here goes my journey. I'm sure I'll post some rants & raves....and pics...so yall bare with me. There is a method to the madness. That's another post...

Thanks to Memphiz & Special K for your insight previously (I'll be hitting you up for advice) and thanks to KinkyCurlyCoolChick for the recent help (I know I worry u on a daily-lol).

Wish me luck...:)

(pictures from http://missjessies.com/ Check 'em out!)

Thursday, April 2, 2009

"We Follow Your Lead" Cheryl 'Salt' James (Def Poetry)

(this was posted a year ago but somehow the video got erased..)

Question. What do you feel about submitting? Men always love to throw 'the woman should submit' bit at us. "It's in the bible," they'll say. Brotha man hasn't been to church or picked up a bible since he was saying Easter speeches, but will throw that one at you quickly.

Funny how many men fail to acknowledge the other instructions (ALSO in the bible). You have to jar their memories on those--to protect us, to love a women like Christ loves the church (which I personally think is more than most men and women can even fathom)...

Anyway, I truly believe that some women would not have a problem with the act of 'submitting' at all. The problem is that we aren't (and shouldn't) submit to just anybody. AND maybe 'submitting' is the wrong word? A man has to be someone worthy of letting yourself feel vulnerable with. He has to protect (which also means guarding our feeling-therefore, if you're doing things that are disrespectful, hurtful, sneaky or simply for your owns gain, guys-FORGETABOUTIT!)

Many of us women have our careers, homes, advanced degrees, etc. We are so used to being independent that we confuse that with submitting. I think that there is a difference in the two. Who says you can't still be independent and strong? I really believe that the real problem is that most of us have been through so much crap that we expect everyone to be the same. I know I was TRIPPIN during pre-marriage counseling about the whole 'submitting' thing in the vows because I viewed it as deminishing me in some way (in every way, actually). I did not want to vow to something that I wasn't sure I could do 100%. Ummm..and I didn't, I did say 'respect' though. And that goes both ways. Both parties need to respect one another for things to be balanced. Maybe that's it='respect vs 'submitting'?

Now I do see that when you have someone that you've made a commitment to (and they've done the same), that there is nothing wrong with following someone's lead (or them following yours with certain things) who has your best interest at heart.

(Stop rolling your eyes ladies! Check out the clip). Let me set the record straight. I DO NOT mean some old school "I'm less than him" foolishness. I am talking about trusting and respecting your man to do just as it says in the Bible (remember, we're talking a REAL man, not just any Joe Blow-and YOU KNOW there's a difference-lol). I'm talking about someone who truly loves you and protects you (and your heart) and all that jazz. :)

All I know is that it takes a lot of work to get there (and I'm not saying I am, but that's another blog). I'm just asking questions...lol. Anyway, maybe we shouldn't knock it til we try it-it just may feel hella good. * Be Blessed*

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

I Promise I Am Not Dead.....





SEE!?! ?!?!?!
I am still alive & kicking! Sorry peeps-I have treated my blog like a stepchild. The thesis has really had me going. I miss all of you bloggers out there and have been lurking as much as possible when time permits.

I will be back in full effect soon since I GRADUATE IN MAY!!!! *taking a graceful bow* lol

Anyway, I hope all is well with my blog fam out there! Be blessed!!!!
Until then....PEACE!
*the hubby & I in New Orleans for Mardi Gras February, 2009*

Tuesday, September 2, 2008

ONE WHOLE YEAR!!!!


July 29th, 2008. 1 year anniversary. Whoo-hoo!!!!

THe Wedding Theme

Sunday afternoon, the hubby's close friend got married. Why did these folks put 3 o'clock on the invitation, but the wedding actually started at 4? Yall aint slick!!! Black people can be on time, you know??
In other wedding news, my cousin is getting married in December. Yesterday, I met her at the bridal store to see her in her (2nd!) dress that'd just come in. (Yeah, we're related because I changed my dress at the last minute, too). She was GORGEOUS! I'm so happy that she's happy!

BUT! Then we looked at my dress. TWO HUNDRED PLUS FREAKIN' DOLLARS FOR A BRIDESMAID'S DRESS THAT I'LL ONLY WEAR ONCE?????!!!!!!?????? Day-um!

*breathe*
She'd happily do it for me. I'm cool.

*gulp*


I smiled, "I'll go ahead and order mine Friday when I get paid." (*note to self-Self, you can forget about those cute shoes and jacket that you were gonna splurge on.*)

Anywhoo, all this wedding stuff made me think...What advice would I give to someone about to get married? Better yet, what makes a marriage work????

Hmmmmm.....

TOP 5 THINGS THAT EVERY MARRIAGE NEEDS:

5. Patience {to avoid ending up on 'SNAPPED'}.

4. A stiff drink {note-this is optional for some, but may come in handy if you're married to a college teacher/musician. Okay, mainly the musician part-it helps tremendously with not knocking out disrespectful women and does wonders for assisting with remaining ladylike at least 9 times out of 10. *Notice I said "A" drink-more may have an "I'm Laila Ali" effect and get you in trouble.} Trust me on this one.

3. Open communication {You may need # 4 prior to attempting this under some circumstances}.

2. Two-TVs {So serious. Unless your hubby is a little 'How you doin'?' he will refuse to watch your Project Runway/Gymnastics (Olympics)/What Not To Wear/rotation. AND he for damned sure won't watch 'Love Jones' for the 868th time with you even if he is a renaissance man who plays the sax and has a Master's degree in African American Literature} Trust me on this one, too.

1. GOD {ALOT of talking to God. He'll become one of your BFFs, if he isn't already. Otherwise, forget about staying sane!}

Saturday, August 30, 2008

Let Me Introduce Myself

Okay okay, I feel like I need to
reintroduce myself to the bloggersphere. What can I say? Life happens. I've missed blogging and getting to read my favorite blogs, but I've had crackberry/lack of computer/getting to learn my new job/working extra long hours/vacation/married quality time stuff/reading books I've been putting off/grad school (made my 1st freakin' B) issues. Whew. ..just pure bad time management on my part-but, I'm back!
Sorta....I still have most of these things going on, but that sh*t's life. Right? Plus I miss blogging and reading blogs, so I'll just have to make time.
This isn't a real blog today, guys. Just reintroducing myself-I'm lying, I just didn't want that "Crackberry and Long Island Iced Tea" or whatever it was, post up any longer (bad bad memories).

I can't wait to tell some of the stories about the characters at my new job (I had another embarrassing mishap-ugh...) and post some of the pictures from the Los Angeles trip.

Peace.

*this picture has absolutely no significance, I just thought it looked cool.*